Man charged with felony assault for shining flashlight at officer

[Chauncey Gardiner]

I know I'm late to the show, but this nation wasn't founded under ANY religion. End of story, and not even an argument.

Chauncey, you hush. You know me. 😄

Well, since you commanded me instead of asking …..

Oh, what the Heaven. 🤐

 

[Chauncey Gardiner]

Everyone has their own unique situation. If you were given 6 months to live years ago and and you're sill around would you be thinking about retirement much? Or if you were a waitress and needed that extra tip money to pay the rent? We all have our own things going on.

You asked two questions. I answered them with the best of my ability and sans advice. You're welcome.

 

[ampdude]

You asked two questions. I answered them with the best of my ability and sans advice. You're welcome.

This isn't an argument, just a discussion. We don't have to agree and if we disagree, not a big deal.

 

[ampdude]

Newsletter email I received today from Social Security Administration:

A new memorandum providing the estimated actuarial effect on the financial status of the OASDI program from a legislative proposal is now available on the Office of the Chief Actuary's website (https://www.ssa.gov/oact/solvency/index.html):

• September 5, 2023 - Estimate of the Financial Effects on the Social Security Trust Funds of the "Equal Treatment of Public Servants Act of 2023," introduced on September 5, 2023 by Representative Jodey Arrington

Right? Well keep giving all our money to Ukraine and everywhere else in the world. And billion dollar defense programs that end up not working... Oh yea all the other vultures too who I won't name here. It's the path we are going down. Why pay for our own citizen's retirements who paid into the program their entire lives. Seems like we need to keep giving more money away.

 

[M@elstrom]

How does anyone know if they'll ever be able to "retire" though? If they live to that age even.

Death and Taxes are the only certainties in life, Governments here Tax Superannuation 3 times, contributions, earnings and on withdrawal, greed does not come close to describing the impact on people's retirement savings, Financial Experts have been advising for decades that the average individual would have tens of thousands more on retirement if that greed was rolled back and thus reduce the burden on the Social Security System.

How Australian superannuation is taxed

Australian taxation of superannuation

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I know I'm late to the show, but this nation wasn't founded under ANY religion. End of story, and not even an argument.

Religion NO... but religious values YES, Christian-Judeo values can be found in Laws and Social expectations, a roadmap to good behaviour but none-the-less founded in Religion 👍

 

[JustAnOldFashionedLEDGuy]

It's all single mom's looking for a walking wallet and broken damaged beyond repair women. I would never online date. And they're always trying to hide their figures. If they weigh more than me.. and have kids.. why would I be interested in paying for some neck tattoo's screw ups who's in prison now. Plus I'd have to deal with him when he gets out. Doesn't seem like I want to deal with all of her screw ups and then pay for them on top of it. We all have enough problems of our own these days than to take on someone else's as well. There's a single mom epidemic out there these days and you can certainly see it on Match or pretty much any "dating" site.

No it is not. That is a straight out lie. If you believe that is the case, that is more a reflection of you than of online dating. Different sites have different user profiles. If you are too cheap to pay for a better site, then you get what you paid for. This is more excuse making. Really, what percentage of women on online dating sites have an ex that is in prison? Get real. Dating sites, especially Match, are a cross-section of people in society. There are many attractive professional women on those sites. Women like that are more than happy to engage with decent, well spoken men who take care of themselves. If you are not attracting the women you are interested in, then you need to step up your game. Just listen to yourself. For someone with no experience, you seem to make yourself out to be an expert. How about not giving advice on something you know nothing about, to other people who are struggling with a topic?

I would never online date.

There's a single mom epidemic out there these days and you can certainly see it on Match or pretty much any "dating" site.

Last woman I took on a "real" date was back in 2008 to see Iron Man.

 

[bykfixer]

A typical ampdude date

 

[JustAnOldFashionedLEDGuy]

1) I get the house free and clear. Based on the fair value of the services I've provided, I earned it. I saved enough to live comfortably without working if I own the house free and clear, so I won't be asking my siblings for any money.
2) I split my mother's other assets evenly between both of them. My mother is far from rich, but being that my siblings bought their homes a while back, this would be sufficient for both of them to retire with paid-for houses, perhaps with some money left over.
3) My brother has a few classic cars. He can have use of my driveway and the garage as an acknowledgement that he did a bit more than my sister.

My siblings can't help me much. Both work. Neither can mind her at their place so I could have occasional week or two breaks. We can't afford any kind of help.

Sounds like there is more than enough assets / money in your mother's name for her to be in a nice care home getting good care 24/7, with current interest rates where they are, not even drawing hard on the principle.

 

[JustAnOldFashionedLEDGuy]

However the religious police in IS get my respect and I can think of some current and former cops that are decent people. I couldn't see wanting to enforce laws that are unjust or being worse than who you arrest.

HUH?

 

[M@elstrom]

There are many attractive professional women on those sites. Women like that are more than happy to engage with decent, well spoken men who take care of themselves. If you are not attracting the women you are interested in, then you need to step up your game.

No "stepping up of game" will change that women will marry up (or across) socio-economic classes at a significantly higher percentile than males, those Professional Womem you reference are most likely looking for a Mr. Right who could well be in the top 10-15% of income groups.

This is called hypergamy.

 

[bykfixer]

Sounds like there is more than enough assets / money in your mother's name for her to be in a nice care home getting good care 24/7, with current interest rates where they are, not even drawing hard on the principle.

Have you visited a nursing home?
Philosphically jtr and I are polar opposites in many respects, but I have mad respect for the guy for taking care of his sick mom. In the end he will have so much inner peace for making the huge sacrifice. It's likely one of the hardest things a person can do yet in the end it was worth it.

I moved back in with my pop at 40. My brothers had taken their turn for a while but eventually he needed round the clock help. I was single and it was my turn. Not trying to make this about me. Just saying the experience in the end made me a better person. When he passed I felt guilty for feeling relieved. But I knew he was better off and had not been stuck in some nursing home. Those places remove what little joy in life remains for those who clothed and fed us when we were unable. The least I could do was make sure his last days on earth were lived in the space he had worked his @$$ off to pay for. And that is what jtr is doing. I tip my hat to the guy.

 

[jtr1962]

Sounds like there is more than enough assets / money in your mother's name for her to be in a nice care home getting good care 24/7, with current interest rates where they are, not even drawing hard on the principle.

Not at $500+ a day, which is what these places cost. A lot of my mom's assets would be heavily taxed if they were cashed in now, being that they appreciated substantially since they were bought. If my siblings inherit them, the basis is stepped up upon my mother's death, so no tax if they cash them in right away. I figured her assets, once you account for the taxes, would pay for less than a year in a care home. Once the money runs out, she's back home with me since she still wouldn't qualify for Medicaid due to her income being over the limit. So what's the point? Blow all her money so I get a lousy less than one year break? There are no nice care homes, either. There might be a few passable ones, instead of terrible, but these are not places anyone should spend their last days in.

My siblings bought their homes years ago. They both owe very low six figures at this point. That's the only reason I said my mom's assets could pay them off. I think you got the wrong impression that they owed mid or high 6 figures on their homes. They don't.

Don't think I would even consider using her home to help pay for a care place. Talk about putting good money into bad. As I said, I'll be OK if I get it free and clear. If the home is gone, I'd likely be homeless after my mom goes. I don't have enough money to buy a place and have enough left to pay for living expenses as well.

Have you visited a nursing home?
Philosphically jtr and I are polar opposites in many respects, but I have mad respect for the guy for taking care of his sick mom. In the end he will have so much inner peace for making the huge sacrifice. It's likely one of the hardest things a person can do yet in the end it was worth it.

I'd say it's probably THE hardest thing, especially from an emotional standpoint. But I promised my mother many years ago, before she even got like this, that I wouldn't put her in one of those places. Besides being awful, they suck up a assets that took people a lifetime to accumulate in a matter of months or years.

I moved back in with my pop at 40. My brothers had taken their turn for a while but eventually he needed round the clock help. I was single and it was my turn. Not trying to make this about me. Just saying the experience in the end made me a better person. When he passed I felt guilty for feeling relieved. But I knew he was better off and had not been stuck in some nursing home. Those places remove what little joy in life remains for those who clothed and fed us when we were unable. The least I could do was make sure his last days on earth were lived in the space he had worked his @$$ off to pay for. And that is what jtr is doing. I tip my hat to the guy.

You did the right thing, even though it was a sacrifice. In the end, when my mom goes, whether it's this year, or 5 years down the road, I'll be at peace knowing I did the right thing. Sure, I'll feel relieved to finally get some semblance of life back, but I won't regret what I had to do to keep her out of those horrible places.

 

[bykfixer]

Exactly

 

[jtr1962]

There are many attractive professional women on those sites. Women like that are more than happy to engage with decent, well spoken men who take care of themselves.

That may well be the case, but most of these women won't even consider a guy unless they're making well into the six figures, regardless of how educated or well-spoken they are.

For a lot of them it's like this:

1) Makes less than $200K-red flag
2) Still lives with parents-big red flag
3) Doesn't drive or own a car-huge red flag

My favorite is #3. It didn't happen to me, but to one of my friends. He chatted with someone he met on one of these sites for a while. He said they seemed very compatible. When they finally got to arranging their first date, she asks when will you be picking me up? He said I don't have a car. She tells him just forget it then. This is in NYC where there are plenty of alternatives to driving. Indeed, if you're going to Manhattan, you're better off not driving. Parking is a hassle, plus it usually takes longer than the subway.

Besides all this, dates in the usual sense are pretty expensive. To pay three figures just to talk to someone for maybe an hour seems like a real waste. My idea of a date might be a long bike ride, or a trip into Manhattan to enjoy one of the many free events the city has, or going to Central Park or another park. Later on it could include taking train trips together or something similar. Eating out at an expensive restaurant? Waste of time/money. Then you most likely have to dress up for it, which is another thing I hate. If I have to wear a suit to meet the standards of my date, that person most definitely isn't for me. I think both sexes look better in casual clothes.

 

[IMA SOL MAN]

Never underestimate the impact a tux or expensive suit has on a woman.

 

[alpg88]

I used to work in a nursing hove, it was a high end private home, that cost about 5k a month. I looked and felt more like a hotel, than a nursing home, actually you would not think it was a NH unless you knew it was. except for 1 floor, where folks with Alzheimer live, that floor is on constant lock down, you need code for elevators to even come to that floor, and keys for staircases. Never seen a 500 a day NH but it has to be way better than the one I worked for. 5k a month buys you a basically a hotel room, all food you can eat, all the freedom you can handle, with 24/7 medical pros on site. that is in NYC. i can't even imagine what 500 a day would be like, an all inclusive resort. But as good as it is I would not send my parents there, they, otoh, may chose that over living with us thou.
However i left it almost 20 years ago, it may be 10k a month now, but still not 500 a day.

 

[jtr1962]

Never underestimate the impact a tux or expensive suit has on a woman.

The weird thing is the types I like would most likely find it pretentious. FWIW, I don't like women in fancy clothing, either. I hate heels and dresses. I like them in casual clothing, but not sloppy. Think maybe the way your typical college girl dresses.

 

[jtr1962]

I used to work in a nursing hove, it was a high end private home, that cost about 5k a month. I looked and felt more like a hotel, than a nursing home, actually you would not think it was a NH unless you knew it was. except for 1 floor, where folks with Alzheimer live, that floor is on constant lock down, you need code for elevators to even come to that floor, and keys for staircases. Never seen a 500 a day NH but it has to be way better than the one I worked for. 5k a month buys you a basically a hotel room, all food you can eat, all the freedom you can handle, with 24/7 medical pros on site. that is in NYC. i can't even imagine what 500 a day would be like, an all inclusive resort. But as good as it is I would not send my parents there, they, otoh, may chose that over living with us thou.
However i left it almost 20 years ago, it may be 10k a month now, but still not 500 a day.

Average in NYC area now is about $435 a day.

 

[alpg88]

Average in NYC area now is about $435 a day.

this is the NH I used to work for.

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[LuxLuthor]

It does seem a matter of common courtesy. It makes no sense to intentionally provoke a police officer, and as they see the dredges of humanity on a regular basis, they are likely much more vulnerable to being unappreciated and outright abused. They may have just dealt with a shooting or spouse abuse, and overreacted in this case. Having worked as an Emergency Room Physician, I strongly support all of our first responders. If there are clearly bad apples, that will get exposed and dealt with.