Non-learner or just cheap?
I try to teach my sons not to depend on others for their needs. Last week we were working away from home and it was a cold day. When we exited the truck I see him put my hat on.
Me - "Why are you wearing my hat?"
Son - "It's cold, dad and you have two."
Me - "Yes, because when one becomes wet I'll have a dry one in the truck."
Son - "Can I wear it?"
Me - "No. Your mother isn't working here."
Son - "What does that mean?"
Me - "It means you're old enough (18) to think about what you'll need before we leave the house,........ instead of playing on the computer up until it's time to walk out the door."
~ Chance who likes a dry hat
Yikes... he's only 18. Why not let him borrow the hat? Only give him guff if he a) fails to take care of it, or b) fails to return it. Sheesh.
An 18 year old is deemed responsible enough to drive, vote, protect (kill & die for) his/her country and be emancipated from family control. I think an 18 year old should also be self-reliant enough to dress weather appropriately.
Why not let him borrow the hat? Because I'm a good enough father to let him learn (suffer) from his mistakes. He is 18 years old, not eight.
Oh, you're a hard man, CG.
Did you let him wear it after that?
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No, I didn't let him wear it. BTW - He was wearing a hooded sweatshirt and it was 46 degrees outside.
If you're considered old enough to vote.... You're old enough to wear your own hat. :santa:
Indeed! Or at the very least, borrow one before leaving the house.
I'm known as Sgt Dad by my kids CG but....
Handing my project manager a flashlight.... well it's kinda like when a surgeon says "scapple" to the nurse. It would not be ideal to say "get your own scapple doc".
Plus I get lots of style points.
I've strived to keep from being a Helicopter Parent and/or a Drill Sargent Parent. I have strong tendencies toward being both. The first hovers over their children, always trying to insulate them from the natural consequences of their actions, thereby removing any incentive to learn from poor choices. The second takes all authority unto themself, thereby teaching the child they need someone to think and decide for them. Not a good life lesson. Least someone accuse me ....... I have never allowed their ability to make poor choices endanger their wellbeing.
I didn't suggest that you not loan your flashlight. I just mused he's either a slow learner or depends on others for his obvious needs.
A few days later we were heading out for work. Guess what? He asked me if I had a hat he could wear. I said - "Of course, here's a bunch to chose from." The hat's ownership wasn't an issue. The issue was being self-reliant and showing up for work with what he needed, not depending on someone else being prepared.
I love my son enough to let him learn from his mistakes. I love him enough to teach him to not be That Guy.
~ Chance
Sorry for the thread derailment.