JeffInChi
Enlightened
Pick up a copy of Malt Advocate or try to find some back issues. Lots of good information.
As to water and/or ice -- in my experience adding a tiny bit of water can open up flavors and some tasters use a lot of water (up to 50%) to discern what complex flavors are present. That is for tasting purposes as opposed to enjoying a wee dram. Ice tends to numb the taste buds and prevents the complex flavors from being enjoyed. Ice in a single malt is generally a no-no.
I'll echo this, but sometimes if you add a teaspoon of water, it'll lessen the heat and open up.
For someone reading this and interested in "getting into" scotch, i have a solid recommendation. it is light and pleasant, Auchentoshan. Try it neat first, add a little water if its too much. Drink slow. Taste. Wait. Repeat. Enjoy.