Of course it doesn't. That's exactly why you don't raise kids telling them that to evade trouble, they learn to not get caught.
You seem to be under the impression that they are
only being taught this. Like this is the only tool given for their toolbox. That is certainly not my meaning.
A kid should be given a wide range of reasons why to stay out of trouble.
A kid should also know how not to get caught, because sometimes
doing the right thing gets one in trouble, but doing the right thing should always be a heavily weighted option when faced with a set of choices.
Authority does not always mean "good" or "right", whether it be a cop, a teacher, a boss, or just an elder.
Kids need to know that too, and should be given the tools to make a clear judgment call about that very issue.
I'm not certain the difficulty in getting the bigger picture here. Kids don't have to turn out to be murders to be considered bad kids that simply rebelled against the way they were brought up. And yeah, I stick to the word I used, "lots." If your only definition of a "bad kid" is the one that is murderer, perhaps it's you that lives in the vacuum?
All kids go through a phase of rebellion. Not being ready and able to handle that in a kind and constructive manner shows poorly on the parent.
Bad kids are like bad dogs, a very rare thing for a smart and loving home to produce.
I see significantly more excuses made for bad parenting than I see intrinsically bad children.
But there's always those ready to make the excuses. So it goes.
I've made as much of my point about this as I feel will do any good.
I'm happy to read whatever response you have to it
@wacbzz, but there'll be no retort. I see no more profit in it.
